If you haven’t seen it yet, apparently Mark Zuckerberg, the Facebook dude, replied to a comment on his page and it’s been making the rounds. Here it is:
I fully endorse Zuckerberg’s comment here, i.e., there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be a nerd. And honestly, with the saturation and proliferation of superhero movies and the craze around Star Wars at the moment, I don’t really think wanting to be a nerd is as stigmatized as it used to be.
It’s not too controversial. A lot of sites and people have rightly praised Zuckerberg’s response. And again, I do, too.
But what about what is implied in Darlene’s comment there? To translate her comment, “I keep telling my granddaughters to find a successful man to care and provide for her, they apparently having no ambition of their own.”
So, Zuckerberg’s comment to me reads more than just saying “be” a nerd, but rather, be autonomous, too. You don’t need to rely on the success of your significant other. I mean, why is the goal of a female to find the right mate and apparently the goal of men is to be successful? Does Darlene, if she has them, also tell her grandsons to find a nerdy woman to date?
It just rubbed me the wrong way and I wanted to parse that out. Feminism, yo. As Emily Crockett said over at Vox:
It’s a fantastic affirmation for girls who grow up reading stories where the boys are the ones on hero’s quests and the girls are there to fall in love with them.
It doesn’t have to be that way.