About That Mark Zuckerberg Facebook Comment…

If you haven’t seen it yet, apparently Mark Zuckerberg, the Facebook dude, replied to a comment on his page and it’s been making the rounds. Here it is:


I fully endorse Zuckerberg’s comment here, i.e., there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be a nerd. And honestly, with the saturation and proliferation of superhero movies and the craze around Star Wars at the moment, I don’t really think wanting to be a nerd is as stigmatized as it used to be.

It’s not too controversial. A lot of sites and people have rightly praised Zuckerberg’s response. And again, I do, too.

But what about what is implied in Darlene’s comment there? To translate her comment, “I keep telling my granddaughters to find a successful man to care and provide for her, they apparently having no ambition of their own.”

So, Zuckerberg’s comment to me reads more than just saying “be” a nerd, but rather, be autonomous, too. You don’t need to rely on the success of your significant other. I mean, why is the goal of a female to find the right mate and apparently the goal of men is to be successful? Does Darlene, if she has them, also tell her grandsons to find a nerdy woman to date?

It just rubbed me the wrong way and I wanted to parse that out. Feminism, yo. As Emily Crockett said over at Vox:

It’s a fantastic affirmation for girls who grow up reading stories where the boys are the ones on hero’s quests and the girls are there to fall in love with them.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

One thought

  1. Peoples from western countries would make that comment less controversial than peoples from countries in the middle east that are heavily influenced by patriarchal religions such as Islam and Judaism. The Asian countries are heavily influenced by patriarchy, too. Women are treated like property in the Asian and middle eastern countries. It’s why some Asian and middle eastern women go to western countries to gain power and freedom to do what they want to do.

    Darlene was born during a time when there was more systemic sexism and gender roles in all countries. Hence, I wouldn’t be surprised by her comment. Also, Darlene’s granddaughters could date nerds and be nerds, too.


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