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I recently wrote an editorial for my newspaper about the recent incident at Ohio University’s Homecoming weekend and the overall discussion about “rape culture.” You can view that article here with differing opinions about the latter, as well as the specifics of what occurred during that weekend. Long story short, a guy performed a sex act on a girl in front of a Chase Bank and dozens of onlookers and now there’s allegations of rape from the girl.

Over the last few days, I’ve spoken with a few friends and others about this situation. I was going to Tweet a rant related to this, but decided I better just go ahead and make a more coherent blog post about it.

There’s a video of the incident still online because nothing ever goes away on the Internet. I watched it because, well, I don’t know why, but I did. If I recall, it’s maybe thirty seconds of footage? I’m not going to post it here, find it on your own, if you desire.

I told someone about what happened at OU and bear in mind, they hadn’t even seen the video. The response was, “She must have just been embarrassed about what happened and called rape.”

Why is that the default thinking or mentality? Some have taken it further and called her a “whore that was embarrassed,” which is just offensive to me.

However, even if that person had seen the video, why is that the default position? Friends of mine that had seen the video remarked similarly:

“This is not a rape.”

“She gives real rape victims a bad name.”

“She didn’t say no or physically push him off.”

First and foremost, I am not a criminal investigator, nor are they and presumably nor are the majority of people that watched it. Secondly, the real criminal investigators with the Athens Police have not even finished their investigation. They have not brought charges toward the man to confirm her allegations of rape nor brought charges against the woman for a false accusation of rape. In other words, we don’t know; the investigation is ongoing.

How anyone thinks they can make an informed judgment based on thirty seconds of video about whether the incident was a rape or not is beyond me.

Why does the victim not get the benefit of the doubt? Why does the victim get called a whore, an ashamed chick, a drunken girl that obviously wanted it? Or if you don’t want to give the alleged victim the benefit of the doubt, why not at least reserve judgment until the investigation pans out?

Victim-blaming; it’s a hallmark of rape cases and what I’ve made mention of with respect to “rape culture.”

In the video, the woman can be seen putting her hand on the guy’s head, as he performs the sexual act. To some, this seems to suggest she wanted it or was consenting to it. Yet, again, how can we make a definitive statement when we don’t know the full details of the investigation or the situation?

And that’s aside the point. In student handbook policies and I’m sure in state laws, there is a mention that any impairment, whether from alcohol, like seemingly in this case, or drugs or any other form, wherein consent cannot be given is rape. In other words, it has to be enthusiastic consent.

Let me be blunter: You can be raped when you’re drunk.

You do not have to verbally say “no” or physically try to restrain the attacker for it to be a so-called “real rape.”

As I mentioned in my editorial, the co-founder of FuckRapecCulture mentioned how females are often afraid to report a sexual assault because drinking was involved. To them, they think that maybe what occurred was their fault because the drinking was present.

It’s any wonder, then, when you see responses like above, why women don’t come forward. It’s perfectly understandable the fear they harbor. Again, as I mentioned in my editorial, one woman, a student at OU, was falsely identified as the alleged victim and was harassed.

The people that took pictures and video of this incident and then shared it on social media, even if it was 100% a consensual act, are despicable human beings. That’s appalling to me. But, if turns out to be rape, it’s made all the more worse.

And what’s worse, she’s already been judged and executed by the court of public opinion; she’s just some slut that regrets a drunken night of oral sex. Fuck her, right?

No, fuck rape culture.

A blog on Word Press here known as “Defeating the Dragons,” has a heart-wrenching post about all of this and she freaking nails it:

“I know this, because when a woman says I was raped the very first thing that the entire world starts screaming at her is you’re a liar.

She elaborates brilliantly:

“This is why bringing false allegations into conversations about rape and consent is so damaging. We aren’t reacting negatively because we don’t think that false allegations are horrible, or that false allegations are insignificant and easily dismissed, because they aren’t. We are reacting this way because we live in a world where false allegations are the dominant narrative. Because false allegations are a nearly-universal part of any conversation about rape, when a woman says that she is a rape survivor, one of the first things that becomes a part of that conversation is suspicion, cynicism, and dismissal.”

People are absolutely fucking ridiculous in my view for overlooking how absolutely traumatizing, invasive and damning it is to come forward with a rape allegation. But the student at OU is just a liar, a bitch, a whore, a slut, a chick trying to save her reputation and avoid expulsion.

Fuck that narrative.

And again, I say, fuck rape culture.

Fuck Rape Culture

5 thoughts on “Fuck Rape Culture

  1. I say fuck you for telling us to give the benefit of the doubt to the “victim” when there is a video showing an act that could only be described as consensual. A sick level of mental gymnastics is required to believe otherwise. FYI, Ohio rape law does not automatically criminalize drunken sex, contrary to feminist dogma. Even having sex while in a drunk blacked-out state does not invalidate consent. See Ohio vs Iran Doss if you want to educate yourself. The notion that having sex with a drunk woman is inherently rape under law is pure feminist fantasy. It is not inherently rape in the US, Canada or the UK. It’s the DEGREE of intoxication that is important. Here is a quote from a study that covered Canadian rape cases that dealt with intoxication.

    “Benedet discovered many judges have determined that unless the victim was practically unconscious, she was still able to consent to sex. Her 2010 paper, The Sexual Assault of Intoxicated Women, cited cases in which judges or juries set the standard almost impossibly high.”

    In Ohio courts, the prosecution has to prove not only that the alleged victim was “too drunk” (substantially impaired, not merely drunk) to consent, but that the accused had reasonable cause to believe that she or he could not resist. In the video, she is clearly giving enthusiastic consent with her body-language (enjoying the act, smiling for the cameras, directing some of the oral sex, balancing herself on the ledge, flipping her hair, all actions of a lucid woman who is aware of her surroundings) and therefore gives him NO reasonable cause. There is no other interpretation. I guarantee you that unless there is more to the story, like say she was raped *afterwards*, she is in danger of being charged with filing a false report in addition to public drunkenness and public indecency. And I say, GOOD! She ought to be nailed to a cross if indeed she is claiming rape based on what happened in that video. And her enablers ought to be crucified alongside her.

    • No need to personally attack me. I believe we can have a reasonable discussion without that.

      The investigation is ongoing. Making any judgments, even with having viewed the video is premature and irresponsible.

      I never said simply having sex with a drunk woman is rape. I said under many school policies and the law, that inebriation can negate the ability to give consent, which can then be rape.

      It’s also premature, irresponsible and arrogant to assume we know how someone ought to act when being raped. Some do not resist physically or verbally.

      “Unless there is more to the story…” Unless you’re with the Athens Police, then how can you render any kind of judgment without any knowledge of the full investigation or the case?

      I’ve never said she was raped or wasn’t raped. I’ve said I don’t know and we should wait until the investigation pans out and beyond. To guarantee outcomes is, as I said, premature and to me, it plays into rape culture and as the author of the other blog mentioned, perpetuates the dominant narrative of false rape allegations.

  2. I’m stopping by to feed you this nice crow sandwich. I have a whole bag of them that I’m dropping off to bigoted “feminists”, many of whom called the man a “rapist” before there was even a rape charge while at the same time telling us that we should give the benefit of the doubt to the false accuser. Yeah fuck the rape culture that feminists created with their lies about drunken sex being inherently rape which has given drunk women across the country an excuse to cry rape instead of taking responsibility for their actions while drunk.

    http://www.abc6onyourside.com/shared/news/features/featured/stories/wsyx_jury-no-indictment-ohio-university-rape-case-3937.shtml

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  4. If a man is charged with rape, convicted and sent to prison he will lose his career, his friends and family (many will turn against him or simply abandon him), his kids if he has any, his freedom, his dignity, he will be socially ostracised and economically devastated for life and in prison he will probably be raped… repeatedly.

    If there is doubt as to whether sex in question EVEN WAS rape (as there seems to be with this case), then it cannot be a very extreme case of rape (no guns, knives, physical force, threats, assaults and so on). And of course it may not even be rape at all. It may just be sex which took place in the heat of the moment which was then regretted soon afterwards (perhaps after the alcohol wore off).

    I don’t know the details of this case so I will imagine a hypothetical scenario….

    Let’s imagine a woman and a man both get drunk, get flirty, get carried away, and engages in a sexual act (in public too!), and they both regret it soon afterwards (after they sober up).

    Looking back they both remember how they were in two minds about the whole thing – even at the time. Being in two minds about something (impaired judgement) is a hallmark of being drunk, after all. It’s a hallmark of being human too.

    The man shrugs it off as a night to forget, but the women decides to claim rape which will allow her to evade taking any responsibility for her behaviour. By claiming rape she is setting in motion a chain of events which could result in the man losing his career, his friends and family, his kids if he has any, his freedom, his dignity, his social life, his wealth…… and if he goes to prison he will probably be raped… repeatedly.

    As soon as the woman formally declares rape she will have to follow through with the allegation if she doesn’t want to be charged with making false allegations. The more seriously her claim is taken by the police/ courts/ jury, the more serious the charge of false accusation becomes. Even if she regrets making the rape claim (like she regretted having sex) she will realise it’s too late now and the deed has been done (just like the sex itself). The kind of woman prone to impulsing sex which she later regrets will also be prone to making impulsive rape claims which she later regrets …. and impulsive consumer purchases which she later regrets and so on.

    So anyway, here is the worst case scenario …… there was a sexual interaction in which consent was assumed by both parties, and consent *appeared* to be given by both parties, but at least one party (perhaps both) felt in two minds at the time and/ or had some regrets afterwards.

    As I mentioned, if there is doubt as to whether it was rape or not then it couldn’t have been a very serious rape – assuming it even was rape at all. We’re certainly not talking knives, guns, threats, physical force, assault or aggression. We’re not even talking about one person saying “No I don’t want to have sex”.

    Instead we are talking about NEITHER side explicitly or ‘enthusiastically’ saying “Yes I really want to have sex”. But the truth is in 99% of sexual acts between adults explicit consent is never given. Usually the consent is given by a long series of escalating non verbal cues – prolonged eye contact, smiling, moaning, touching, fondling, sexual arousal (ie being as wet as an otter’s pocket/ as stiff as a flagpole) and so on.

    So I guess the question is does this sexual act in which (a) nobody said “No I don’t want to have sex” and (b) nobody used any force or threats or weapons or any form of coercion whatsoever ….. does THAT kind of sexual interaction give the woman the right to formally declare she was ‘raped’, given that such a claim could potentially destroy the man’s entire life, tear his family apart and cause him to be repeatedly raped (in prison) in the most violent and coercive way, by someone of the same sex (which presumably is not his bag)?

    The feminist/ mangina stance seems to be that when a woman gets drunk and randy she is entitled to become LESS responsible for her own behaviour (female privilege)….. but when a man gets drunk and randy his level of responsibility actually INCREASES to include not only his own behaviour but the behaviour any women in his vicinity too. He is even expected to be able to read the inebriated thoughts in woman’s head. And if he gets it wrong – it’s off to jail.

    So much for ‘equality’ then…

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